Category: Marriage
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A Mark of a Good Marriage
A regularly recurrent delight in one's spouse is a mark of a good marriage. If, 35 years into it, she still has the power to charm you, then the prognosis is good.
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Chess Players Commiserate on their Failed Marriages
A: "We were bishops of opposite color." B: "Sorry to hear that. In our case the union ended when she discovered I had insufficient mating material." C: "We just couldn't get it together. Whenever she wanted to make love, I was busy making Luft." D: "She blew her stack when I gingerly brought up the topic…
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Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
Here: "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" my father used to say. It drove me crazy when he said that. Now, it's dawned on me that he was right.
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The Wise Live by the Probable, not the Possible
The worldly wise live by the probable and not by the merely possible. It is possible that you will reform the person you want to marry. But it is not probable. Don't imagine that you can change a person in any significant way. What you see now in your partner is what you will get from here…
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Would You Go into Business with this Person?
If not, why are you marrying her? Marriage is undoubtedly more than an economic arrangement. But it is that.
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The Right Woman
How do you know that your present inamorata is the right woman for the long haul? Well, if she tells you that she can do better, then you know she isn't. When Brandeis girl said that to me years ago, I handed her her walking papers. But if she says to you, "My hero!" and…
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Marital Fidelity and Masturbation
He who marries himself and intends to remain faithful to his partner has only one form of sexual expression open to him, namely, masturbation.
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Marital Compatibility
She looked for her father and found him in me. I looked for the opposite of my mother and found anti-mater in her.
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Is Marriage a Long Conversation?
Friedrich Nietzsche, Human All-Too-Human (tr. W. Kaufmann, The Portable Nietzsche, p. 59): Marriage as a long conversation. When marrying, one should ask oneself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this woman into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory, but the most time during the…
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Unsuccessful in Love
The Collected Poems and Epigrams of J. V. Cunningham, Chicago, The Swallow Press, 1971. Epigram 57 Here lies my wife. Eternal peaceBe to us both with her decease. Epigram 59 I married in my youth a wife.She was my own, my very first.She gave the best years of her life.I hope nobody gets the worst.…
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What About Infertile Heterosexual Couples?
Keith Burgess-Jackson writes, The purpose and point of marriage, as everyone knows, and as the law has long recognized, is to bind a man and a woman to one another for the sake of any children they produce. Please, please, please don't say that infertile heterosexual couples are allowed to marry, as though that refutes…
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‘Traditional Marriage’ or ‘Natural Marriage’?
This from long-time reader, Bill Tingley: As always, Bill, I find reading your blog enlightening and enjoyable. I note you are using the term "traditional marriage" to refer to marriage. Now that the Supreme Court has redefined marriage as nothing more than a civil union, the meaning of the word "marriage" is in turmoil. So…
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Obergefell’s Threat to Religious Liberty
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Abortion and Same-Sex Marriage: Decoupling Religious and Secular Considerations
I say they should be decoupled. They won't be, of course, but they should be. My case for decoupling may be gleaned from the following two substantial entries: What Does Abortion Have to Do with Religion? The Infertility Argument for Same-Sex Marriage
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SCOTUS and Benedict
In the wake of recent events, Rod Dreher renews his call for the Benedict Option: It is now clear that for this Court, extremism in the pursuit of the Sexual Revolution’s goals is no vice. True, the majority opinion nodded and smiled in the direction of the First Amendment, in an attempt to calm the…