Appreciate What You Have

Appreciate what you have while you have it.  An actual shack is better than a remembered or merely imagined or expected or merely possible palace.  Do not allow the present and actual good to suffer diminution by comparison to the modally and temporally and spatially elsewhere.

This is it.  This is your life.  Right here and right now.  If it is good, appreciate it.  If it needs improving, act right here and right now to improve it, but without failing to appreciate the good that is here and now yours.

When to Psychologize

You are free to psychologize your opponent when his position is demonstrably false or incoherent.  If his reasons are worthless, then you are justified in exposing the motives that drive his commitments.