{"id":5278,"date":"2017-09-01T13:52:08","date_gmt":"2017-09-01T13:52:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/2017\/09\/01\/the-wise-live-by-the-probable-not-the-possible\/"},"modified":"2017-09-01T13:52:08","modified_gmt":"2017-09-01T13:52:08","slug":"the-wise-live-by-the-probable-not-the-possible","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/2017\/09\/01\/the-wise-live-by-the-probable-not-the-possible\/","title":{"rendered":"The Wise Live by the Probable, not the Possible"},"content":{"rendered":"

The worldly wise live by the probable and not by the merely possible.  It is possible that you will reform the person you want to marry.  But it is not probable. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don't imagine that you can change a person in any significant way.  What you see now<\/em> in your partner is what you will get from here on out.  People don't change.  They are what they are.  The few exceptions prove the rule.  The wise live by rules, not exceptions, by probabilities, not possibilities.  "Probability is the very guide to life." (Bishop Butler quoting Cicero, De Natura<\/em>, 5, 12) <\/span><\/p>\n

It is foolish to gamble with your happiness.  We gamble with what is inconsequential, what we can afford to lose.  So if there is anything about your potential spouse that is unacceptable, don't foolishly suppose that  you will change her.  You won't. You must take her as she is, warts and all, as she must take you.<\/span><\/p>\n

The principle applies not only to marriage but across the board.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The worldly wise live by the probable and not by the merely possible.  It is possible that you will reform the person you want to marry.  But it is not probable.  Don't imagine that you can change a person in any significant way.  What you see now in your partner is what you will get from here … Continue reading “The Wise Live by the Probable, not the Possible”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[222,134,72],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5278","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-happiness","category-marriage","category-sage-advice"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5278","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5278"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5278\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5278"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5278"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maverickphilosopher.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5278"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}